I APPRECIATE YOU

{this was originally written, Sunday, October 14, 2007}

I was suprised to learn earlier this week you were nominated for Homecoming Court, whatever that means. You told me very matter-of-factly. The day of Homecoming you disclosed you were one of four seniors contending in a school-wide vote. Your brother said he "sort of" voted for you. He put a check next to your name, but never submitted the ballot because, he says, "I didn't know where to bring it." Of course, I never expected any different answer from you when you said, "Of course, I voted for M___. I would never vote for myself."

At 4:30am this morning after the Homecoming Dance, I woke up on the couch with a heart-panic startle - "Did you come home last night? Are you OK?" I found you sleeping, and you barely whispered, "I got King... I got in at 3, I love you."

You getting "King" was never part of my plan. How did this happen? Did I help? Did I hinder? How does one become school King?

You've been most cooperative. You obliged letting me expose you to an endless stream of stuff - to the point where your idea of a good time is now to stay home. (Remember the time you threatened to committ suicide if I made you take Chinese on Sundays instead of play baseball? Which cost me $2000 for a shrink, only to be told you have a great head on your shoulders, and would mom like some counseling? lol. You are the world's greatest catcher, 1st spot in the batting lineup, and base stealer!) You know more about music than your peers (and most adults), except for your brother. I kept you on a short leash. Constant war drums about improving grades and studying. You didn't go to public school until grade 9, and this school has 2700 students, so how did you get to know everyone?

Father John said today, we are so busy being self-reliant or on task that we often don't take time out in our lives to show appreciation for those who love us or to those who affected us in our lives. Without their love or uniqueness, what do we miss? Show appreciation and thanks, he says. We should not take each other for granted. The thought of taking someone for granted is sad, because only someday later might you realize what you had, after they are gone. Did you ever acknowledge them? Did you say you love them?

How do all those kids who voted know you? Was it your name? Your school spirit? Your female friends? A sympathy vote from the smart kids (for your brother)? The music vote? The track vote? The nice guy vote? Your dancing? Well thanks to your friends.

You are friendly and reliable. If I was on a desert island, you'd be on my short list for company. When I think of what qualities you must have to get this recognition - it's kinda funny. This one is all yours. I'm glad you pursue your interests. I'm thankful for you. Congratulations!